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Life is too short to settle for mediocrity.


Thanks so much for your kind words of support last week. You sure know how to make a girl feel loved.

Being “home” in LA has been so nice. It’s truly where my heart is.

I’ve been focused on SELF care this week and connecting deeply with Zak and Rain.

We’ve enjoyed game nights, date nights, movie night, and just hanging out as humans. They feed my soul so deeply. I feel complete when we’re all together.

I also created some really amazing things in my work this week alongside the world’s best team!

I’ll share more on that in just a minute.

But first, I wanted to share with you something that happened when Zak and I went out to dinner last Wednesday.

So, we chose this restaurant that we had gone to once before.

The last time it was a vibe. The décor was beautiful, the ambiance relaxing, and the food was next level.

Buttt… since the last time we had been there, they changed the menu.

And nothing really looked appetizing.

We had a drink, kept trying to narrow down our choices and find something, anything, we would want to eat.

And then I realized that was stupid.

“What are we doing?” I asked Zak.

He laughed and said, “Seriously… why don’t we just leave?”

So, that’s exactly what we did.

We paid for our drinks and headed to one of our favorite sushi restaurants (because sushi) and had the most amazing meal with deep conversations in a familiar environment.

I was full.

On the way home, I got to thinking about how often we settle for mediocrity.

Afraid to ask for / demand what we really want.

When were headed to the second restaurant that night, I said to Zak, “You know… I’m not trying to be difficult, I’m just not willing to settle.”

He immediately replied, “Why would you? Life is too short.”

He’s right. (He often is.)

Life is too short to settle for mediocrity.

Personally, I’m allergic to it.

Now, sure it would have been EASIER to stay at restaurant #1.

Sure, we could have found SOMETHING that would have tasted fine.

And sure, we could have saved ourselves the time and trouble of going somewhere else.

But, that time – that time we will never get back – wouldn’t have been near as special, nourishing, or transformative.

We wouldn’t have been truly LIVING. We would just have been existing. Going through the motions.

But we are meant for more than that.

YOU are meant for more than that.

We only have a short time here, why not enjoy it to the fullest?

So, today I invite you to look around and ask yourSELF…

Where, in your life, are you settling for mediocrity when you know deep down in your belly that you want more?

You want to be more. Do more. HAVE more.

“More” could be more money, more fulfillment, deeper relationships, mouthwatering food, unlimited confidence, or something else entirely.

Why in the world would you settle when everything is possible for you?

Because this is it. This is the only life you get.

Make it count.

Keep reading and I’ll show you how.

PS The way I found my “more” was through being a coach. It allows me to have the life I live and I’m so grateful for that.



Where are you settling for less than you know you’re meant for?

That’s a big question but it’s also one worth asking.

Today, I invite you to grab a cup of tea/coffee/champagne (no judging ), find a spot you won’t be distracted (cozy spot in the sun or in your favorite chair?) and put pen to paper.

Let what comes up flow out onto the paper.

Be honest with yourSELF.

Everything you write down, you can change. No one is forcing you to continue living your life this way.

As Rumi said, “Why do you stay in prison when the door is wide open?



Once you’ve answered the question, “Where are you settling for less than you know you’re meant for”, let’s practice some SELF Care.

Review every item on that list.

And as you do, give yourSELF some grace and space.

Acknowledge that it’s all ok. Every choice, decision, circumstance, result or lack thereof.

Everything you’ve done and everyone you’ve been has landed you right here and right here is as good a place as any. 

Don’t beat yourSELF up.

Just accept that this is where you are right now.

Remember that right now is temporary. And things can change.

Don’t rush this process. Just BE in your own life right now. No distractions or numbing.

Care for and accept yourSELF just as you are.

Journal what comes up.



Now that you know what you’re settling for and you’ve accepted what is, you’re in a place to change it.

If you want.

But… if you don’t love your life so much it takes your own breath away, you have to at least think about changing it. 

I know you’re meant for more and I also know greatness is your birthright. Everything truly is possible.

And I also know that you’ve been through some serious shit in your life.

I know you’ve had the courage to pull yourself up, dust yourSELF off, and fight for a better situation like your life depended on it. 

I know that sometimes it actually has.

So, today I want you to know that at any time you can tap into that courage, that strength, that fight, and choose to change things.

The choice, as always, is yours.

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