I created Identity-Based Coaching and the SELF Made Method to help people just like you who want to create a life so good they’re only jealous of themselves!
I’ve been on tons of TV shows and have worked with celebrities like Khloe Kardashian. I’ve sold just over a million copies of my books. I have a husband who I’m madly in love with, a child who stole my whole heart, and friends who will help me bury the bodies.
I’ve been broke, hungry, and homeless. I’ve dealt with depression, abused drugs and alcohol, and suffered from mental health issues as long as I can remember.
I had no rich uncle, didn’t inherit money, didn’t marry rich, and no one gave me anything.
But like you, I knew I was meant for bigger things. I knew I was meant for more.
She dreamed of living a new life where she felt safe instead of scared, hopeful instead of worthless, and proud instead of ashamed.
Every day she saw her dad drink, her mom yell, and her younger sister cry.
That little girl was me.
My home was also filled with drugs, alcohol, and domestic abuse. I experienced physical, emotional, and sexual abuse.
The first time I thought of taking my own life, I was 5 years old.
I saw my dad attempt to murder my mother many times. I wrestled guns out of his hands more times than I care to mention.
I endured constant ridicule and bullying from family members and “friends”.
After my roommate got high on crack and almost burned the apartment down, I ended up homeless. So, I decided drugs and alcohol were the answer (spoiler alert: they weren’t).
And at last, I hit rock bottom with no way out. One night, I found myself sitting alone on the cold floor of my cramped studio apartment. I had $388 left in my bank account and was too sick to work.
I was overweight and had been diagnosed with chronic fatigue syndrome and clinical depression. I felt broken - physically, mentally, and spiritually. I just wanted the pain to stop.
The hope I once had was gone. I realized no one could save me and I decided suicide was the only way out.
So, I asked myself... if life were a book and I was the author, how would I want the story to go?
I finally stopped looking outside of myself for something to fix me and went inside instead.
I confronted my stories, ditched the shame and unworthiness, and stopped apologizing for who I was and where I came from.
I created a new identity of the person I wanted to be and I embraced it daily.
I'm here to be an example of what's possible. To prove that it does not matter where you’ve been or what you’ve been through. You too can take action and create the life you want regardless of your obstacles and without apologies. AND have fun in the process!
You can rewrite your old stories, step into the Identity of your Future Self, and create a life so good you're only jealous of yourSELF!
Today, I am a self-made multimillionaire, best-selling author, and coach.
I’m known for helping people get unstuck through rewriting their stories and designing their future SELF (aka being SELF Made).
I’ve been able to help people who have “tried everything” transform their health, their wealth, and their relationships through embracing the identity of their Future Self and focusing on who they BE not on what they DO.
It’s what I’m known for.
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When you become aware of the stories you tell, you can rewrite them in a way that serves you instead of keeping you stuck.
You can create a new SELF by design rather than default. You can become SELF Made.
This is called Identity-Based Coaching and it’s my specialty.
It's true. Your Identity decides your entire life - from the money you make to the relationships you have to the confidence you have when you walk into a room.
With Identity-Based Coaching, the focus is on changing who you BE first so what you DO is simply second nature – no willpower or white knuckling it required.
Change is so much easier - and more fun – than what we’ve all been led to believe!
You Are Not Alone
I struggled with feeling stuck, unable to change my life, longer than I care to remember.
I had to shine a big ol’ light on how I was the only one standing in my way. I had to acknowledge that I pushed people away, said “no” to letting anyone support me, and sabotaged my own efforts at changing my life.
I had to stop judging others for having what I wanted because I wasn’t willing to do the work.
I had to stop blaming and framing everyone else for the results I was creating (or not) in my own life.
I had to deal with the trauma and shame I had carried with me from childhood.
None of this was serving me. It’s not serving you either.
Once I let go of all the bullshit holding me back, I got busy creating my Future Self.
I rewrote the stories that had kept me stuck.
I embraced a new Identity of a person who had, and was, everything I wanted and then some. And my entire life changed.
It’s how I designed mySELF and the life I wanted to live, without apology, and then stepped into it like it was Cinderella’s slipper.
YOU can too!
You’re just ONE STORY away from EVERYTHING you want…
I also cuss. A solid amount. Here's why.
food + drink
Champagne and oysters
For a girl that grew up on soup beans and cornbread (google it) this is some shit!
My daughter, Rain. Completely and wholly.
And skincare. And being SELF Made. And cats. I'm obsessed with cats.
Excuses, reasons why you can't, fake people, mean people, and perpetual victims.
Everything is possible. Yep, everything.
I believe it doesn't matter where you've been or what you've been through, you too can create a life and career so good you're only jealous of yourSELF!