This Is How To Become Your Future SELF Today
On Monday, Zak and I headed out to dinner with friends and it was so nice to have everyone together again.
As we were sitting around, sharing vacation plans and family challenges, I started to think about how far we’ve all come.
I’ve known this crew for the past 8 – 12 years.
We’ve all been together for cross-country moves, birthday celebrations, and business milestones. AND… we are not the same people as we were even just a year ago.
Neither are you.
And that can be a good thing!
Most of us don’t want to be like our past selves.
There are things we want to change.
- more freedom, flexibility, and fulfillment in our work
- butterfly-in-the-tummy relationships that are deep and passionate
- creativity outlets for self-expression
- more money for all the things
And a lot of other things as well.
So, here’s the thing…
Your current self is being created by your past self and how you see your Future SELF.
In the past, I’ve asked you to get clear on what you wanted your Future SELF to look like.
Today, I want to give you some practical ways you can start BEING that Future SELF.
Because life’s too short to spend it hoping, wishing, and saying… “one day I’ll…”
VISUALIZING IS KEY
So, now that you’re clear on your Future SELF, how do you tie your Future SELF to who you are now?
There’s a lot of ways but today I wanted to share one of my favorites with you.
I do this every single morning and it’s made a huge difference in how I show up, my moods, my focus, and my results.
Every day, take 10 minutes to visualize your Future SELF—in three to five years. You pick which works best for you.
Ask yourself these questions and visualize the answers:
- What will you do when you get up every morning? When you go to bed at night?
- Who will be by your side? Partner, kiddos, furkids?
- How will you feel every day?
- What will you have accomplished?
- How will you look?
- How will you spend your time every day?
- What will your relationships be like? Feel like?
Visualization is enormously important.
It’s so important, in fact, that even Olympic and professional athletes do it regularly as a part of their training.
It may seem like daydreaming and a waste of time (I get it, I thought the same), but your mind doesn’t know the difference between what you’re imagining and what’s real.
So, the more you visualize your Future SELF, the more your mind will align with that and support you to do whatever it takes to become that version of your SELF.
Every decision – from what to eat to whether or not to workout to taking that plunge in your business – will become easier. (IKR?)
So, go ahead, dream big, and let your mind become your greatest ally in becoming the badass version of yourself you’re destined to be!
IT’S TIME TO THROW A DINNER PARTY
As you know, I love a good dinner party. 🥳
As an introvert, it’s the perfect way for me to feed my spiritual hunger for connection while not feeling drained at the end of the night.
And that’s what SELF Care is all about.
But did you know that dinner parties can play a fun role in embracing your new Identity and becoming your Future SELF? ⚡
Here’s how it works…
You throw what’s called a “Come As You Are (in Five Years)” dinner party.
Everyone dresses, acts, and talks as their 5-year Future SELF.
I know! It’s super fun! And even more fun when people forget and go back to their current SELF and you have to remind them.
Everyone celebrates what they’ve done and more importantly, WHO they’ve become.
When you sit down for dinner, you go around the table and everyone shares their biggest accomplishment of their Future SELF and you toast at the end to celebrate!
Throughout the evening, you’ll tell stories of what you’ve accomplished in the past 5 years.
It can be things like…
- “I took the family on our first trip to Paris!”
- “I launched that business idea and made $1.3 million!”
- “I wrote that book I had been wanting to write and it shot to the top of the bestseller list!”
- “I started a family!”
- “I lost those last 15 pounds and completely transformed my health. I even ran a marathon!”
- “I found my dream partner after all this time! I love them more today than ever.”
Or something else entirely!
I knowwww… It’s so good!
For the entire evening, you can only BE the person you imagined you’d become in five years.
I’m telling you, this is HUGELY transformative and breaks you out of the normal blah blah conversations that aren’t focused on the present.
Because after all, the best way to understand how incredible your ideal life will be is to EXPERIENCE it!
WHEN YOU LOOK GOOD, YOU FEEL GOOD
Have you ever heard the old saying, “Dress for the job you want, not the job you have”?
I have no idea who first said that but they were on to something.
Think about the last time you got dressed up for something… a dinner, a graduation, a wedding, a big event, or something else.
How did you feel?
Probably good AF!
You might also have felt confident, proud, hot, or even a little wicked.
Studies have shown that you BE different based on your appearance.
In fact, scientists refer to this as “Enclothed Cognition.”
Which basically means, how you feel determines your actions and the results you get.
If you FEEL confident, you’ll take action confidently, which leads you to getting what you want.
Repeat this over and over and you’ll become your Future SELF while looking – and feeling – amazing in the process!
I dress for my Future SELF even when I’m working alone from home and it completely changes my attitude, my actions, my focus, and even my productivity.
Oh, and this is the shirt I was wearing for dinner in the pic above. I got so many compliments on it!
Ahem, anywayyyy… as I was saying…
Plus, people see you differently. They perceive you as being your Future SELF which can lead to opportunities you wouldn’t get otherwise.
Now… a word of warning… don’t misunderstand what I’m saying here…
You don’t have to dress in designer duds with the tags hanging off or a logo across your chest (unless that’s what your Future SELF would do, then play on playa).
You just want to dress as YOU! Unapologetically Future SELF YOU!