You Aren’t Too Tired to Create Your Dream Life (Here’s Why)
Zak and I have been spending some quality time connecting, watching movies, and taking day trips. It feels so good to have found my person. ❤️
We’re having deep conversations and creating the marriage we both want to be in and it feels so good, I can’t stand it sometimes.
I was sharing this with a friend a couple of days ago and she said to me, “I would love to have that kind of relationship but I’m just too tired these days to even think about creating it.”
You’re too tired to create deep and meaningful relationships?
I’m so confused.
But the longer we talked, the clearer I got.
She told me how she lies in bed, scrolling socials, and thinking about her future life.
She mentally makes plans about how “one day” she will have the money, the career, the time, the shoes, the man, the body, etc. And yet… she’s not taking any action to get those things.
When I asked her why, she once again said, “I’m just too tired.”
But the truth is… she’s not tired. ❌
She’s just bored with the life she’s living. And THAT is exhausting.
I know because I’ve done it.
I remember very clearly what it was like to be stuck in a life I didn’t love with work that didn’t fulfill me, health conditions that were ruining my life, surrounded by people who wouldn’t show up if I needed them.
And I also felt exhausted. Too tired to take action and create anything different.
But it doesn’t have to be that way.
You don’t have to get into the trauma and drama and do alllll the work. You can just choose to do something different.
You can, if you want, be completely obsessed with your life and the people in it.
You deserve that!
You’ve gone through SO much (seriously… SO much!) and you deserve all that this wild and wonderful life has to offer.
If you’re tired of feeling tired and you want a bigger, bolder, more beautiful life for yourSELF, then keep reading.
Today, I’m gonna share some ways you can start to create a life so good you’re only jealous of yourSELF! ✨
Cause that’s what I do.
So… you want a life you’re obsessed with BUT…. You have too much to do, you don’t know how, and honestly it’s just not the right time. ⏰
Let’s just say this so we can get it out of the way right from the start…
If you fight for your limitations, you get to keep them. 👊
I will not arm wrestle you to take them away.
YOU gotta be willing to throw them in the ditch and leave them there. Otherwise, I can’t help you. #realtalk 🗣
And before you say, “Well how about I throw YOU in the ditch, Cynthia, and we all move forward?”, know this…
We ALL fight for our limitations. Me included.
Because of the trauma and drama I grew up surrounded by, I often think that I don’t deserve to feel good. To be good. To have good things in my life.
So I say things like, “I don’t have time… today’s not a good day… I’m too tired.”
But that just keeps me stuck. It keeps you stuck too.
The truth is you can just simply say YES to everything you want to have, be, do, and feel.
Starting right now. 🥳
Stop finding all the reasons you can’t and focus on why you can. ✨
Notice when your brain gives you excuses. But don’t beat yourSELF up.
Just observe them. Be curious about them (“I wonder why I think that…”)
And then let it go and choose to do the thing anyway.
It can be that simple. No trauma and drama required.
You just get to choose.
In fact, let’s just do this right now…
Make a list of YOUR limitations. Time, money, energy, kids need to be older, too much going on, etc.
Now, take a good look at them. 👀
There they are. Say hi to them. “Hiiiiii limitations.”
And now take a deep breath and answer the question…
What will YOU choose? Will you fight for those limitations or will you fight for a life you’re obsessed with?
The choice, as always, is yours.
If you want to create a life you’re obsessed with, you have to get uncomfortable.
I know you’ve heard this before… “get comfortable being uncomfortable”… yeah, yeah.
But have you actually done it?
If you’re like me, I don’t like being uncomfortable. (Because why would anyone WANT to be uncomfortable?)
But the thing I like even less than being uncomfortable is living a life of mediocrity.
So, if I have to do things I’m not comfortable with to have the life I want… fineeeeee. I’ll do it.
The key here is this… the life you want has to bring you more pleasure than the pain of feeling uncomfortable.
So what is that for you?
What is THE thing that you want so deeply that you will choose to feel uncomfortable – every day if you have to – to have it?
For me, it’s to give my daughter a life that’s filled with everything she could ever want and then some.
There is no amount of discomfort I won’t feel to give her the life she deserves. Full stop.
So let me ask you again…
What is THE thing that you want so bad it makes you want to jump out of your own body?
What is THE thing that brings you so much pleasure that you will choose to feel uncomfortable – every day if you have to – to have it?
SELF MADE SUCCESS
You know what successful people DON’T do?
They don’t say, “I can’t.”
This is just another limitation.
It’s also just a story.
Of COURSE, you can!
What are you even talking about?
You CAN do anything you want. (And don’t play with me here and start thinking of all the dumb shit you “can’t” do like “walk on water”, I said what I said )
Do me a favor…
Think back on ALL the hard things you’ve ever done…
Some examples include…
- Having a child
- Leaving a toxic or abusive relationship
- Saying goodbye when a loved one passes
- Struggling with a health issue that seems to have no resolution
- Forgiving someone for the unforgivable
You might have said, “I can’t do this.” You might even have REALLY believed that.
But what happened?
That’s right… you did it anyway. 🤯
When your back is up against the wall, you will show up and do what you need to do.
When I got the call about needing to fly home because my dad was in his last stages of dementia, I immediately thought… “I can’t do this.”
And then I proceeded to think that same thought about a thousand times over.
But I did do it.
Now, I had no idea HOW I would do it, but I just took it one step at a time and I figured it out.
Just like you did.
Listen to me…
You were born to do hard things and you didn’t come this far to only come this far. You can do anything you decide to.
And I’ll be here to remind you of that anytime you forget.
Now… go out and do something that brings you closer to living a life you’re obsessed with.
Because you deserve it.