How to Determine WHO You Want To Be In 2024
Ok… so, how’s your year going anyway?
Mine has been slow and intentionally delicious. I know, kind of an odd way to describe it but then, I’m odd.
I have spent such soul-stirring time with Zak and Rain and it’s been so good.
Rain had an interview for one of the schools she applied to for next year (cross your fingers pleaseeee) and she did such an amazing job!
It’s her top choice so we’re rooting for her. (She even wore the school colors – see the photo. I know, I want to eat her up!)
I’m so proud of the young lady she’s becoming.
And it’s funny… I’m sharing all the things I share with YOU with her!
She understands how to create the person she wants to be and just BE that person.
It’s exactly how she prepared for her interview.
When we walked into the school, I said to her… “You got this Rain!” and she responded, “Oh, I already go here.”
Yep, she really said that.
You know… Sometimes I think about how my life would have been different if I had known how to re-identify (the process of ditching your past and current identity and creating a new one for your Future Self).
If I had known that I could choose what I wanted earlier and become that person who has it… I think I could have fucking crushed it!
I know, I know… hindsight and all.
But what I am focused on now is getting this information into the hands of good people like YOU who can be great examples for your children and loved ones.
I truly believe in the idea of redefining SELF Made and making it accessible to everyone in this modern day and age.
I also believe that it has the potential to change the world. #facts
So, that brings me to YOU!
I know I talked in the New Year’s Eve post about not setting goals but rather focusing on WHO you want to be (not HOW you’ll reach your goals).
Did you get clear?
If not, there’s no time like the present!
Listen… You can’t create live your dream life if you don’t know what it is.
So for the love of naked turtles, WHAT is it?
I’ll say more about it later on but I’m begging you… do NOT let 2024 be a repeat of 2023 (unless you love the absolute fuck out of your life in 2023 and then play on, playa!).
Let’s change some shit.
Keep reading for more thoughts and actionable things you can do to create a life and business so good (you guessed it…) you’re only jealous of yourSELF!
Three Steps to Finding Out WHO You Want To Be in 2024
Ok… As I said above… you can’t live your dream life if you don’t know what it is.
When you have a clear vision, you create a BEcome the person who achieves it. If you don’t, you’re letting life happen to you and going through the motions.
I want MORE for you in 2024.
Something tells me you do too.
Now, I know it can feel like a LOT to sit and think about how you want your life to end up in the next year, 5 years, or even 10.
I talked about this in our recent SELF Made Session (in the SELF Made Membership)…
But can I remind you that… it’s your LIFE!!!
What in the WORLD is more important than that?
We put off thinking about our future and our big dreams because we feel like it’s the one thing we CAN put off.
Right now, dinner needs to be made, business decisions have to happen, and you gotta do that thing for that person.
So… you wait.
And you say, “I’ll get to it tomorrow… or this weekend.”
And that feels like you’ve taken action so you get your little dopamine hit and you go on about your business.
Here’s what I want you to know…
You’re delaying the most amazing thing you will ever experience – life.
And you’re gonna keep putting it off and putting it off until one day you realize, there is no time left.
Do you really want to end up on your deathbed filled with the regrets of all the things you didn’t do?
I’m thinking no.
And you say, “Why do you have to be so dramatic, Cynthia?”
And the simple answer is this…
I genuinely give a lot of fucks about you, your success, AND your happiness. I know you deserve more and refuse to stfu about it until you take action.
And for that, I do not apologize.
Ok… I’m gonna get off my soapbox before I fall and hurt mySELF but think about what I said.
And if you decide to actually have a say-so in your life, you can start with these three steps:
- Grab a pen and paper and find a spot where you won’t be disturbed. Maybe get a cup of coffee (or a glass of champs if you’re doing 2024 like THAT #doyou).
- Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths.
- Open your eyes and dream BIG. WHO do you want to become. Don’t worry about the HOW. Just focus on the WHO. Do you want to be a person who lives a life of luxury and is completely unbothered? With healthy food and workouts you love? While you enjoy relationships and connections that make your toes curl? Do you want to be the person who lives in that house, drives that car, and impresses those people? There are no limits. Don’t you dare play small.
I can’t wait to see what you come up with!
The choice, as always, is yours.
How Does WHO You Want To Be Care For YourSELF
When I tell you I’ve been taking good care of mySELF lately, I mean it.
I’ve spent time with friends, my family, and also alone.
I’ve taken bubble baths with a glass of champs, watched my favorite movies in cashmere pjs (fancy), and eaten the most mouth-watering food.
I know… I went ALL OUT!
And what I’ve realized is… I deserve it all and then some.
Did that make you uncomfortable?
Were you like… “Damnnnn… she just said that?”
Or were you like, “Yeah you go, girl. Get yours!”
Either way, I don’t mind. I love you anyway.
Because here’s the thing…
YOU deserve all this and SO much more too!
It’s meant for you.
SELF Care isn’t limited to just holiday or time off. It should be a regular occurrence.
Because why the fuck not? (back to that whole “you only get one life” thing)
So, as you think about your Future Self, how do you care for yourSELF?
What are the indulgences you have on a daily basis?
How do you celebrate YOU on a random Thursday afternoon?
This all plays into the bigger question above… WHO do you want to be in 2024.
Go wild. And then, go wilder!
Think About WHO You Want To Show Up As In Your Business
After seeing people slowing down, connecting, and relaxing for the holidays, there was something about the world being quiet that allowed space for me to dream.
And dream I have.
I’ve been thinking about my business a lot lately. Where I’m going. Who I’m uniquely positioned to serve.
And WHO I need to BE in order to achieve my goals.
It’s been exciting and revealing.
I’ve allowed myself to think about opportunities, endeavors, and undertakings that I haven’t really entertained before.
There’s this “thing” I know I’m meant to do but I kept pushing it off. (See, I’m still doing this work too!)
It’s gonna take on a lot of different forms but here’s what my focus will be…
I’m focused on helping ambitious entrepreneurs who are overworked, exhausted, and just want to do iconic shit and be seen as the authority in their niche effortlessly scale their business to $100k a month in passive income – while having plenty of time for luxury travel, slow mornings, spending time with their kids, and continuing to build their motherfucking empire.
I know… bold AF. And I’m here for it.
I hope you are too.
You see, recently, the market research firm Wealth-X analyzed the world’s ultra-wealthy population (those with a net worth of $30 million or more).
What they found was that 67.7% of those folks were SELF Made.
Here’s the thing…
The world is changing rapidly and there has never been a better time to become SELF Made.
Gone are the days of waiting to be discovered, working hard for years to build your wealth, and hustling long hours to “make it”.
And as you know, being SELF Made is more of an inside job than an outside one.
So, it’s time to ditch the shame around wanting the good life.
Let’s normalize wanting (and HAVING) big, bold lives.
And let’s not apologize for it.
To continue the exercise we started at the beginning, think about WHO you want to show up as in your business.
Get clear. Go big. And let’s create that future together!