How Saying “Fuck It” Can Reduce Stress

I’m rushing through the airport, short of breath.

I could feel the pressure building.

If one more thing gets added to my plate, I’m throwing the entire fucking plate away and buying a new one.

I get to the gate and we’re already boarding.

Because of course we are.

I sit down on the plane and my bag doesn’t fit under the seat.

Because of course it doesn’t.

I lean back, take a deep breath, and say the two magic words that make my stress melt away like butter in a hot skillet…“Fuck it.”

I smiled, took a deep breath, and literally felt the stress draining out of my body as I melted into the seat.

It was like a spontaneous burst of freedom.

I know… you’re probably thinking… “What did you drink before you wrote this, Cynthia?!”

Why You Have to Just Say “Fuck It” Sometimes

So, let me explain. You see, I’m the kind of person who likes things to be a certain way.

I color code my closet, plan in advance, and track my time like I’m running out of it. (I meannnn… technically we all are but I digress.)

The point is, I like to control things. Can you relate?

And, there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s ok to like things a certain way.

To want to follow a certain schedule or process. To want things to be convenient. Easy. Pleasurable.

But the world (unfortunately) doesn’t cater to our wants. It just is how it is. Shit happens.

Traffic is bad. You crash the car. People disappoint you. Things change last minute.

And sure, these things can be stressful. Your first reaction might be to “fix it”.

You might call someone, google it, freak out, or blame someone. You might rail against what is happening and be mad as a MF.

And when you’re done having your very human moment, like I did on that flight, you can take a deep breath and simply say… fuck it.

The #1 Reason We Feel Stress and WANT To Say “Fuck It”

You see, the main reason we feel stress is because there are things in our life we can’t control.

And stress does terrible things to your body and mind. To your relationships. You deserve better.

When used the right way, with the right intention, “fuck it” can be spiritual, healthy, and healing.

So, instead of fighting against the unchangeable, simply allow it. Let go.

This isn’t an excuse to ditch your responsibilities and act like a reckless fool. In fact, it’s the opposite.

Surrender to the things you can’t control. Accept that things don’t always go the way you want them to and this will help reduce stress.

And then take the next right action toward what you CAN control – without stress or anxiety.

The ONE Question to Ask To See if You Should Say “Fuck It” To Reduce Stress

Does this thing really matter that much in the big scheme of things? No? Then simply say, “fuck it”.

Stuck in traffic? Fuck it.

Got a flat tire? Fuck it.

Kids hungry? Fuck it.

I’m kidding!!!! Feed the children for love’s sake!

The point of this is that… I was taking things very seriously when they weren’t actually that serious. And that shit was stressing me out.

So now, I’m focused on accepting things as they are instead of trying to make them the way I want them to be.

Now, I take a deep breath, smile, and say, “fuck it”.

And life is so much easier.