Design A life you’re obsessed with

The identity design framework to reinvent who you are and how you live.



Build the business that funds your freedom

The blueprint for building a brand that sells on autopilot. 

Turn Your Work Into a Certification

Build the legacy you actually want and scale to $500K–$1M+ with less effort.

Explore The SELF Made System →

Explore The SELF Made Method →

Explore The Certification Model →

Become A Certified
Identity-Based Coach 

Become A Certified Health Coach 

Get certified through the Institute of Transformational Nutrition and create a career that transforms lives, starting with your own. 

Get certified in Identity-Based Coaching® through The Modern Life Coach School and build a business that changes lives while supporting your own.

Learn About The Certification →

Explore the Courses →

Watch the Show

SELF Made Resources

Quizzes, guides, and trainings that help you become a Living Brand - the woman who creates categories of one, gets seen without screaming, and builds a life so rich and unbothered she’s only jealous of herSELF.

We thank everyone else for our success… friends, team, mentors. Cute. But when’s the last time you thanked the only person who actually dragged you through hell and back? YourSELF.

Watch I’d Like to Thank MySELF →

Get Free SELF Made Resources →

YouTube

Episodes

I Stopped Being Nice and Made More Money Than Ever

Listen on Apple Podcasts

Watch on YouTube

Listen on Spotify

Listen on Pandora

Episode 07 Description:

People-pleasing built my career and almost destroyed my life. I spent 30 years performing as someone I made up to keep people comfortable, and the day I finally stopped was the day everything got easier, richer, and way more fun.

Get the free Undeniable audiobook — how to go from overlooked to impossible to ignore:
https://www.cynthiagarcia.com/undeniablebook

I grew up learning to read a room before I could read a book. If I made my dad laugh, the night went a different way. If I was sweet enough to a family member, I got to spend the night at a house with actual running water. People-pleasing wasn’t a personality flaw. It was a survival strategy. And I carried it into every business, every relationship, and every room I walked into for the next three decades. Until one Instagram post at 48 accidentally blew the whole thing open.

In this episode you’ll learn:
  • The childhood survival skill that became a $100M business strategy (and the bill that came with it)
  • Why I paid a voice coach in Laurel Canyon to put a wine cork in my mouth for months (and what he finally told me)
  • The two completely different versions of myself I performed depending on who was in the room
  • What I told Zak on his couch the night I decided to stop performing (and the one confession I was sure would end it)
  • The post I almost didn’t publish at 48 that got 20x the response of everything else I’d been doing
  • Why I thought I’d already beaten people-pleasing (and the moment at 48 I realized I was still doing it in a completely different disguise)
  • What happened when my beauty content went head to head with my business content (and why the results made me rethink everything)

If you’re a woman who’s been calibrating herself for every room she walks into and wondering why success still feels like it belongs to someone else, this one’s for you.


Episode Chapters:
00:43 — I got everything I ever wanted (and all it cost me was me)
03:45 — The survival skill I learned before I could drive
05:00 — The wine cork in Laurel Canyon
06:47 — More characters than a Tyler Perry movie
07:53 — Every dollar reinforced the lie
08:50 — I got everything I wanted and walked away
12:38 — The night on Zak’s couch
15:18 — The performance I didn’t know I was still doing
16:08 — The post I almost didn’t publish
17:00 — 20x the response for the thing I’d been hiding
23:04 — The toast

Follow Cynthia Garcia

Instagram: @iamcynthiagarcia

TikTok: @iamcynthiagarcia

Facebook: @iamcynthiagarcia

Website: cynthiagarcia.com

Rewritten Beauty

Instagram: @wearerewritten

Facebook: @wearerewritten

Website: wearerewritten.com

Institute of Transformational Nutrition

Instagram: @transformationalnutrition

Facebook: @transformationalnutrition

Website: transformationalnutrition.com

hot As Fuck
After 40

free guide

The Uncomfortable Cost of staying

Hi, I'm
Cynthia Garcia

Most people blend in no matter how hard they try to stand out. I built multiple brands by turning my life into proof and creating categories of one.

Now I’ll show you how to do the same.

Join for FREE Now! →

The SELF Made
Membership

Your VIP Pass to building a life, business, and brand that takes you from overlooked to impossible to ignore.